Want to know what Sarah did after her beloved husband suddenly passed away?

Majority of my articles are centered around divorced women who have been wronged by their husbands. They are a majority in my article list after all. But this article…is not going to be about them. This one is for those whose marriages ended abruptly and cruelly… this is for those women who lost their loved one in a tragedy and unexpectedly. As you can expect… its hard for a widowed woman to find love again… and its mainly because of the chip that they carry on their shoulder.   Let me tell you about a friend’s cousin Sarah. I have a feeling that listening to someone else’s story makes one more empathetic rather than just hearing empty words. So she married her husband in 1985 and they had been together for close to 23 years. One day she was making pie for her husband…he always loved cherry pie. That’s when she got a call that turned her life on its head. Her beloved hubby had died of a stroke while grocery shopping. Everything changed that day… and she sold her house and got a job in Sydney. She wanted to startover. Things were going pretty well in Sydney… her kids were supportive and everything and they told her to put herself back in the field again. So the dates began… she met many wonderful men. And some of those men could have resulted in happy relationships. But she couldn’t bring herself to do that. In her eyes… dating someone else was equivalent to cheating. In her mind she was still married to that man… she couldn’t bring herself to...

Here is a video that I made back in the day which will help you immensely

One of the biggest things that I have noticed about women who go through divorce is their inability to say “No”. It could be about anything…either they are filling up their schedule to do various chores for people that they don’t really want to do. Or maybe they just can’t bring themselves to say “No” when it comes to men. One way or another its their way of combating loneliness. Maybe nobody will want me now that I am too old… so I should just make do with whatever I can get. That kind of thinking is poisonous. You should never ever “settle” for something….isn’t that why you got divorced in the first place? More often than not its mainly because you settled for a man who was way below what you deserve. You should never ever compromise on your happiness. The fact is…and I have stated this in a previous article… you should realize that you are not alone. You have your family, your friends, people who care about you. You have to live on and be happy for them than for yourself. Remember, life is short and you cannot compromise on it and nor should you. Learn to say “No” to make sure that you are focusing your energy on the right things. Here is a video I made sometime back regarding the power of “No”. Check it out: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vt6adfD0V6w...

Here is what happened after the best NLP coach in the world went through my program

I truly believe that a coach should everything possible to give the best possible material to their clients. And especially when it comes to the matters of the heart…giving half-hearted unresearched advice is pretty much the absolute worst thing that you can do. Now why am I telling you all this? Because I realize that one, you might want to be involved in my program..one day you might decide to move on from your divorce and meet the man of your dreams. And when that day comes…I absolutely cannot and WILL not mess it up for you. I want you to have absolute trust in me and my program “Tomorrow Is Now”. Now why should you trust the program? I was trained by the wonderful folks in the Tad James Company. There was something unique about them… they preferred actions over words and they have shown me the correct way of becoming a coach. I am immensely proud of what I have achieved through them. Personally speaking I have worked as a conveyancer before and it gave me a unique insight into how the mind works and why is it that we do what we do. So taking in everything that I have learnt from the Tad James Company and my years as a conveyancer and also from my immensely fulfilling marriage I was able to construct this program. A program where divorced women can find true love.     But I needed something else. I needed that final boost that will make sure that my program is ready for use. I needed something that would make sure that...

You must be very careful about who you are taking advice from

Its easy to just give advice and telling others what to do. There is this story about that somewhat fits this scenario. Once a great saint was visiting a village and everyone came to seek his advice. There was a troubled mother who was desperately seeking for him. Finally, when her turn came she threw herself at his feet and said: “Oh enlightened one! My son is addicted to opium… what shall I do?” The saint said, “Come back to me next week and I will tell you what to do.” 1 week went by and the mother went back to hoping to hear his answer. But, the saint looked at her and simply said, “Oh you are here. Tell your son to not do opium anymore.” The woman was shocked. She said, “That’s all? You made me wait 1 week for that?” The saint said, “I was addicted to opium as well. It took me a week to get rid of the habit. If I had told you this back then I would have been lying to myself.” What is the moral of the story? Seeking someone’s advice should be done after much deliberation. If you remember… quite sometime back I told you that rather taking everyone’s advice you should CHOOSE who to take advice from. After all…too many chefs spoil the broth. You must take such important life advice from people who have walked the walk and who KNOW how to solve the problem areas in your life. So when it comes to finding love after divorce….why should you listen to me? I have been married to...

Do you know why this amazing technique is such a HUGE part of my program?

If you have been a regular reader of my articles so far then you would know two things about me: I have a fondness for cat gifs… especially the ones where they are doing stupid things. Neuro Linguistic Programming has played a critical part in my life. Now 1 is pretty much self explanatory… after all we all know that cats are the cutest when they do stupid things: https://49.media.tumblr.com/4fc7265e34adf4021d45962babe5306f/tumblr_o57v1dcDDp1ukldkho1_400.gif Voila. (Even though it’s a digital and fake cat…but still) But the second point…ah now that needs some digging Now when I was training as a coach my mentors had impressed upon me the amazing powers of Neuro Linguistic Programming. They were telling me stories of how famous athletes and soldiers used this technique to great effect. And while I was pretty impressed… there was just this one small wee little problem. I am not a world class athlete and neither am I a soldier. Chances are…most of my clients are going to be like me…just plain normal folks. I wanted everyday folks to use the power of this awesome technique in their daily lives. And that’s when I started researching about the various applications of Neuro Linguistic Programming. How does Neuro Linguistic Programming work? It combines the state of your mind and language to give a desired effect. It’s a very simple and well….atrocious way to describe it but it gives you a fair idea. Its one of the foremost tools in psychotherapy that has ever been created. So how can you and I … use it in our daily lives? I came across this wonderful article which...

Do you know what was the last thing that came out of Pandora’s box?

SO when I left you the last time round I was in quite a predicament. Just to recap things for you a bit I was telling you about the chat that I had with Sheila, an acquaintance of mine who lost both her husband and son in a car accident. Even though she had done well with her life ever since that tragedy she still had troubles moving on. In her words: “If I do date someone it would mean that I am acknowledging the fact that he has truly left. And I cannot bring myself to do that.” What can you possibly say after someone says that to you? So I went back home and started thinking…and I had an epiphany.   Do you know what that is? That’s an artist’s depiction of the Pandora’s Box. The story goes like this: Pandora was told not to open the box but curiosity got the better of her. So as she opened the box she released all of the sins and evils into the world. When she realized what she had done she was devastated ….. but that’s when she noticed something… There was still someone left in the box…and as she peered closer it was a small angel who escaped. The angel was Hope. Basically the moral of the story being.. no matter what happens there is always hope. And that everything bad that has ever happened is because of a woman. Don’t you just love casual sexism….NOT. So when I came back… this was the story that came to my mind. I can’t even begin to imagine how...

Here is why it’s tougher for widowed women to move on

This article is going to be a little specific. I have, in the past, addressed my articles to women who became single because of divorce. This article is for women who had no choice in that matter. This article is for women who lost their husbands through a tragedy. If you have been fortunate enough to have escaped this fate, then I still want you to read this article regardless. I am going to talk about an acquaintance of mine. Sheila (name changed) was married to her college sweetheart and together they had a son. The son was a huge fan of Manchester United and they were coming down to Sydney for an exhibition match. He really really wanted to go and watch them. So the day finally arrived and father and son went over to the stadium… Sheila had some work to take care of. A week later she was planning to surprise everyone with tickets to Switzerland. 3 hours later she got a call that turned her life upside down. Her husband and son were killed instantly in a car accident… the guy who hit them was drunk. She was devastated…obviously. She spent the next 3 months aiming all of her anger and energy towards the driver … when I spoke to her she told me that now she realized that no matter what happens nothing could ever bring back her family. But back then she wasn’t thinking logically. Back then…all that she wanted to do was to cause the man who took away everything from her as much and suffering as possible. It was after the...

Here is what 2 of my former clients had to say about the program

So I know that the last few articles have been a little depressing. And I do apologize for being bit of a downer but those are things that needed to be said. So today let me tell you an uplifting story. This is about Mary, a client of mine. I think it was close a to a year back when I she decided to enroll in my program. So this is how her story goes. She was happily married for 30 years before she found out that her husband was sleeping with her friend behind her back. Apparently this has been happening for 5 years. So she divorced and obviously she got the house and the kids during the settlement. Now, even though she caught her husband red-handed she was still heartbroken. I mean how else are you supposed to feel when you find out that your husband of 30 years has been cheating behind your back? So anyway someone recommended my program to her and we started working. Whenever I work with a student I tell them the butterfly story. Basically how a caterpillar turns into a butterfly via going through the painful pupa process. Mother nature has a lot of interesting stories to tell us,, but the tale of the butterfly’s metamorphosis is a BIG one because its so relevant to what I teach. So, we started with renovating her mind using my Neuro Linguistic Programming…. The chief goal of this phase is to heal the mind. During this phase I ask a lot of questions which might feel uncomfortable at first.. In fact, here is what...

The DOs and DON’Ts of finding love after divorce

This article will have is going to be a pretty simple one. There is not going to be some story or real life example…just a plain, simple old fashioned list. Which reminds me…I haven’t used a cat gif in a long time…so let me see… https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/originals/2f/90/17/2f90172ee152d29bb1ae3bd84ac601bc.gif There you go. Now that we are done with that…. Let’s dive right in.. Today is a going to be a simple list…. What should you DO to find love after divorce and wht should NOT DO. Basically the DOs and DON’Ts of finding love after divorce. So let’s just get the negative stuff over with first: THE DON’Ts 1. Do Not Jump Into A Relationship Straightaway  This goes without saying. After an emotionally traumatic experience like divorce your mind needs to heal. You are in absolutely NO shape to straightaway jump into another relationship. You are going to do yourself more harm and you are also going to make the other person unhappy. It’s a complete LOSE-LOSE scenario. Speaking of jumping into relationships…   2. Do Not Make Yourself Too Available  This is understandable. We all hate being alone….we want someone to be by our side. Especially for late divorcees this is a very real fear. BUT here is the thing… if you make yourself too available it will be counter productive. The game of courtship and romance is something that can’t be hastened… and I will teach you all that you need to know to get “back in the field” in my program “Tomorrow Is Now”. But for now…just keep this in mind. 3. Do Not Complain About Your Ex-Husband This...

Here is an interesting story about how Pablo Picasso found the true artist inside him.

Here is something you should know about me…I love art. Not just the paintings…but most of the great painters throughout the ages make FASCINATING character studies…especially for someone like me who is obsessed with the human mind. Whether its Leonardo’s flamboyance or Caravaggio’s aggression or Dali’s plain weirdness..they are all fascinating in their own ways. There are a lot of masters whose work I have been deeply inspired and awestruck by but there is one man that has always stood out for me… not only because of his technical mastery and creativity but because of his life in general.. Ever since I can remember I have been a huge Picasso fan. Now, Pablo Picasso, or as my friend’s grandson calls him, “The dude who makes those weird*ss stuff”, is one helluva interesting guy. This is a man who has become more than a painter…he has become a brand. Owning a Picasso is now considered a luxury, a statement if you will. Now I am not going to give you a lecture on art history… but this is pretty interesting nonetheless. Picasso is known for always changing his art style and always being relevant, but there was a point in his life..which lasted for 3 years which was characterized with morose and depressing paintings. This period was called “The Blue Period” because the paintings were mainly painted in a blue shade.   Every painting released in this 3 years had this same depressing, tragic feeling…because Picasso was going through a terrible personal tragedy during this time. One of Picasso’s closest friends named Casagemas shot himself because of a woman. Unable...